Saturday, October 25, 2014

Review Eng/Grk : Η γλώσσα του σώματος/ Body language B+A Pease



Η γλώσσα του σώματος  Body language B + A Pease 



This book is surely the best  among the books I have  read so far mentioned for  body language  with ca 470 pages I have the Greek version edited /published 2006 . The  book is very detailed with many pictures and diagrams and  analyzes  it from many aspects including cultural differences , smoking , better office design , and a final chapter with examples to  analyze bunches of  nearly all   referred in the book


Στα Ελληνικά 


Μαζί με το βιβλίο Collins gem το βιβλίο των  Pease & Pease  είναι ένα από τα άριστα βιβλια  στο χώρο της γλώσσας του σώματος  μέχρι στιγμής που εχω διαβάσει . Μέσα  σε περίπου 470 σελίδες οι Pease περιγράφουν πολύ  αναλυτικά  τα περσότερα  χαρακτηριστικά που διέπουν  τις ανθρώπινες  μη λεκτικές επικοινωνίες . 

Πλήθος  παραδείγματα  και διευκρινιστικές εικόνες Μόνο για το θεμα της χειραψίας σαν παράδειγμα  αναλύεται    σε περίπου 10 σελίδες

Εκτος αυτού  υπαρχει  και ένα κεφάλαιο  που περιγράφει   τις διαφορές μεταξύ  των  διαφόρων πολιτισμων , από οπου και φαίνεται  ότι οι Ιαπωνες  είναι ενας από τους πλέον διαφορετικούς πολιστισμους  με πολλες ασυνήθιστες κινήσεις    εν σχεσει με τον υπόλοιπο κοσμο !

Επίσης  στο τελος  του βιβλίου υπάρχει   ειδικό κεφάλαιο  για το πώς πρεπει να είναι  οργανωμένο ένα γραφειο  Και ένα  κεφαλαιο σαν επανάληψη οπου εντοπίζουμε τις τεχνικες που αναφέρθηκαν  στα κεφαλαια   μέσα απο μια δέσμη  χαρακτηριστικων

Το βιβλίο  είναι ιδιαιτέρα  εύκολο και ευχαριστο   στο διάβασμα , και ιδιαίτερα κατανοητό
Μπόρεσα   να το ξαναδιαβάσω   σε περίπου 4 ημερες  

Βαθμολογία  4.5 /5

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  • Σήματα με τα ματια
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  • Συνδυάζοντας  όλα τα διδόμενα (:συνοπτική επανάληψη )









 

Thursday, October 23, 2014

Hartly & Karinch Body language / viewpoint in English & greek






This book is a  bad quality  reprint  specifically as a  add on for a newspaper this year . The book uses  a rather bad paper , poor  gray scale  photos and is rather hard to  read because of these reasons. Moderate level of subject makes me   a  bit indifferent in what they write in it , as many of them already known to me. And Collins gem  is much  better any way


Η γλώσσα του σώματος


Το βιβλίο το βρήκα  μέσα σε προσφορά εφημερίδας. Η ποιότητα του χαρτιού είναι πολύ χαμηλή δημιουργώντας  μικρή αντίθεση με το  σχετικά αχνο μαύρο μελάνι της  εκτύπωσης    Ευτο  συνεπάγεται  δυσκολία στην ανάγνωση . Επίσης προσθέστε  ότι  το κείμενο  καλύπτει  σχεδόν ολ την σελίδα > σαν αποτέλεσμα  αυτό ακόμη περισσότερο με δυσκολεψε     στην ανάγνωση του βιβλιου (η ολη λογική   θυμίζει κάπως βιπεριστικα  βιβλία  για ένα θέμα  που θα απαιτούσε καλύτερο  είδος χαρτιού και εκτύπωσης )

Το κείμενα από την αλλη  αντι να με βοηθήσει ακόμη περισσότερο  με μπέρδεψε  καθως οι συγγραφείς ανακάτεψαν μαλον ανιαρη  ορολογία όπως εμπόδια , επεξηγητές κλπ Αν και η γλωσσ α ηταν αρκετα απλη.  Nα υποθέσω ότι  ο μεταφραστής   δεν ήταν κατάλληλος? 2/5 


Σημ: στο Amazon   οι κριτικές είναι μέτριες  3/5

Sunday, October 19, 2014

review : Nasty People by Jay Carter

Nasty People

Aka the invalidator

 by Jay carter




“The invalidator” as it was to be called  is a small 100 page book written by  Jay Carter 20 years ago and is specialized to  what some would call cyclothymiac or people who say this time  something now and after sometime  refute  As rather all these  people are like Hitler , ie little  Hitlers  who always try to find ways n how to manipulate you and  then you feel no only bad but also  lose your temper  mood and finally  you get into demise and get sometimes into suicide at least  psychologically.

This book  uses a rather  strange and “ill mannered” language . in several cases  you may think that you are also a  nasty person  as the persons he describes …  The wording in most is rather simple though in the start  of the book  I had about 5-7 unknown words in a rather sparse text


Here is a  short description of the book . If you are interested  in more in depth analysis you can see here
http://stuffiwannashare.blogspot.gr/2009/02/invalidator.html   which is in 5 parts ,based  from this book


Part 1  characteristics of the invalidator
uncertainty : you feel unsure
projection; giving a fault of him against other people
judgment : criticism for really  nothing
manipulation :
sneak attack: the bad use of but
double message : an expression  of obscure meaning
cutting communication : stopping the  discussion in the middle when you speak
double bind : you play you lose , I play you lose  too

Part 2 the bigger picture :
characteristic and origins that effect the personality of such a person
the archetype : ie elements of a  personality
identifying  a invalidator : “ if you see ego , arrogance , sense of entitlement , narcissism , be wary of invalidator” is a expression from the  book

Part 3 Victim
There is a  picture of how a  victim is destroyed by an invalidator

Part 4 Cycle of  invalidation
Taking a first person toa bully and giving some ideas on how to suspend baing as is
A table shows on how invalidation is contagious

Part 5 What do we do about
Confront , repetition give the truth , mirror  the projection

Part 6 to invalidation :a mechanism
Here the author makes a  open dialogue against the  invalidation as like it was  a person !






Collins GEM Boidy Language


A old collective  book I m not 100 sure on when i bought it but  seems at least since 2000 , at last the  time it was republished and  bought   that time from  the local market of a  cost of ca 2500 drs  or 8.5 Eu .(price listed is GBP 5.5 )

This a a  8.8 x 11 cm  pocket book.

This book is highly a  pictorial with  nearly full of pictures in its nearly 200 pages



Its size is very practical and always handy to use. Very nice  text and  easy to understand. The pictures as you see help the  user very much and simplify  him to get the message immediately.


Here is a description of the chapters included  . There are  also two : guide to actions and list by emotions
  1. Discover body language
  2. Expression and gestures
  3. Getting together
  4. Meetings and parting
  5. Being positive
  6. Being negative
  7. Signs of conflict
  8. Domination and defensiveness
  9. Tension  relaxation
  10. Concerning deceit
  11. Animal gestures




Wednesday, October 15, 2014

The Complete Idiot's Guide to Coping With Difficult People




The Complete Idiot's Guide to Coping With Difficult People
by Arlene Matthews Uhl

As usually  these series of idiot guides  are determined  to use a rather funny language . However this book is  rather not so funny , unless  you read  in a different  way and laugh a bit

This book instead of the book of Glass  seems as like a …dissertation. His language is rather complex and sophisticated that made me lost much time to identify the unknown words which are about 6-8 per page in  a text of ca 700 words per page . The author is a psychiatrist who tries to explain a story in rather simple way but still  for me my vocabulary is rather  poor as already noticed
In the text  there are not only definitions inside the text but also found at the end of the book before the word index

The text boxes   has nearly the usual  form of Idiot’s  , this time as:

  1. Disarmer (maneuvers )
  2. Man hole (alerts)
  3. Tactics (mini stories  pf help )
  4. Definitions (explanations )

But anyway the information  is quite good and analytical with good ideas nearly rady to use

Rating 3/5  due to  my poor  vocabulary and the time required to  read it

Here is a  table of  contents

Part A  ABC of DP

  • They are everywhere or so it seems
  • Identifying difficult person
  • Basic self protective strategies

Self absorbed
  • It s all about me
  • Coping with the self absorbed in relationships
  • Relating to  the self-absorbed in relationships
  • What to do about public narcissists

Controllers
  • All about control freaks
  • Coping with controllers  at work
  • Controlling yourself in relationship controllers
  • Responding to controllers at large

The obstructionists
  • ALL about obstructionists
  • Getting post obstructionists at work
  • Handling relationship with obstructionists
  • Surviving social obstructionists

The truly toxic
  • Crossing the line
  • Responding the ruthless at work
  • Defending yourself abusive relationship
  • Reacting for dangerous strangers

Advanced attitude adjustments
  • Dealing with combination types
  • When nice people have difficult days
  • Learning from difficult people
  • Don’t be difficult

Glossary (all definitions here accumulated )
Further reading










Book review : Toxic people by Lilian Glass


Toxic people

This is another book found in my self-help collection from the older times.

Mr Glass in this book makes a partial remake or possibly follow up of her  Verbal Self defense  but seems more specific regarding to the other book as it goes closely to toxic persons  that defending in general
ON the start  the book  deals with all characteristics (more  than 120! )that  imply in a toxic person then it analyses  the behavior and on how you can understand of a person is toxic  from the discussions you may have. 

The techniques it describes  are identical to the other book  with possibly less wording and then on how to cope with them , using a series of strategies referred in the previous chapter (8)

All remain chapters on the end ,which are  mostly  for motivation,  seem  not to have any relation with the defense book but hey seem to me quite interesting as well as  moving .
What  I loved in this book are  he stories  she noticed. Some of them  are relatively funny  but some of them are moving

Even  the wording is somehow funny . As for  example : klutz , emotional refrigerator , gloom and doom , jokester

MY rating : 4/5 (mostly  for the end chapters )

Here is a index :

  1. Is there a  toxic person in your life ?
  2. Toxic behavior
  3. What makes toxic people act the way they do
  4. Identifying the toxic people in your life
  5. The 30 types pf toxic terrors
  6. 10 types of handling toxic people
  7. Techniques of handling types of toxic terrors
  8. Choose he tech based on the persons role
  9. Dealing with the anger and hurt of a toxic relationship
  10. He importance of of outward self toxic image inventory
  11. Revitalizing the toxic relationship
  12. Get on with your life


Sunday, October 12, 2014

The tower room /Adele Geras



The tower  room
By Adele Geras





This is the second book  Daphne Lee s  ‘Malaysian tales’  is  based or inspired for he Malay team to write the  Malay tales retold and remixed

As  I found in the net , Adele Geras  , writes books  aimed for children . This book is loosely  based on the Rapunzel story. 3  teens  living in a room in a tower describing their  adventures .  Till the  main character of the story  finds the love and then ….(you many read the book  for more! )

This book  uses   easy and simple language  though on the start about 7 words out of 500 were unknown to me (but thanks to the tablet  the task  was  quite easy )and the pages  were easily read in less than 10 minutes per page together  with the translation . On the start od the story I was  checking mostly the language  but near to the end  as the story goes  to the  top of the interest , I was then based nearly stopped looking at the text and followed by the  story till he end of  it 
But i dont think that the story is suitable  for young children. It is  possibly more suitable  for teens  .And gets  close to what we call here 'harlequin' (ie romantic ) stories

The story  was indeed  interesting in the start , btu on the end I was    quite worrisome to know what finally happens! 

The book has been read in just 2 days . The size is 120 pages 

my rating 4/5 

PS: this is  the first part of a trilogy The series (i ordered recently and expecting  soon )consits  of these stories based loosley : 
1- Tower room =  losely on Rapunzel 
2- Watching the roses = modern version of Sleeping beauty
3- Pictures of the night, a retell of snow white




The bloody chamber by Angela Carter : review






The bloody chamber

BY Angela carter


This book  is the one of the two books of Daphne Lee inspired to write together with a team of  good Malaysian writers the book Malaysian tales remixed and retold  (http://zliangas.blogspot.gr/2014/05/malaysian-tales-retold-and-remixed.html)

The book  is like a remix of older mostly known tales as red riding hood , snow white   in a total  of 8 mini stories in  a very different way than the original It is noticed by revidewers that the stries here set   a new position on the young females , in a rather wining form .carter also noticed that she was a feminist

Unfortunately  the language  is very difficult . For example a text of just 70 lines  has abt 40 unknown lemmas . That made me lose abt  30 minutes to  identify  all these  lemmas and lose finally the text .And ten i had to read the tex t about two times agin to get the meaning of the story

I have  found a site  that used relatively  easier language that  analyzed  each story in brief  , ie ca 10 lines   per story , as well as  a separate page for each story . As I understood  all stories are absolutely  not for children . All stories  mix devils , aglu wolfs e






It was  nice that there was a  Greek edition  of the book . The book was out of print wit the publisher suspended  operations  several years  ago. he most impressive , was  that a  small bookstore could find it and deliver it in just 3 days . NOne of the big chain stores could do anything for it ! The  cost of the book is E17 

Here are the stories  mentioned in both obooks ;
The bloody chamber basd on Blue bird - this is the longest story of the book  

Coutrhip of Mt Lyon 
Tiger's bride                 both based on beast and beauty 
Puss in  boots (same as the original 
Erl King (nordic stories )
Snow Child (loosely on snow white )
Were wolf 
Group of wolves
Wolf alice      These 3 base don redd riding hood 

If you are interested  in extensive revew or analysis on this book find here http://www.gradesaver.com/the-bloody-chamber/

The only i can comment oin this book , mostly from the  Greek edition is hat the  language is very picturesque into an impressive text